The yellow wheel clamp was impossible to miss against the faded gold of my twenty-year-old Honda, and for several seconds I simply stood on the cold February sidewalk staring at it. My car had been legally parked in front of my neighbor Linda\u2019s house overnight, exactly where I had left it after coming home from work. There were no parking restrictions, no unpaid tickets that I knew of, and certainly no reason for the city to immobilize it. Then Linda appeared across the street in a cream-colored robe, coffee in hand, and began laughing. \u201cI warned you,\u201d she said, reminding me that only the day before she had threatened to make me \u201cregret\u201d parking where she could see my rusty old Civic from her window. I felt my anger rise, but instead of arguing, I took out my phone and photographed the clamp, my car, the curb, the absence of parking signs\u2014and Linda standing nearby looking remarkably pleased with herself. Then I smiled, wished her good morning, borrowed my daughter\u2019s car and drove to work with an idea beginning to form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My name is Margaret, I am sixty-three, and I have lived on Chestnut Street for thirty-one years. The house where I raised my daughter Carrie is modest, the driveway was designed in 1952 and barely accommodates modern cars, and my 2004 Honda Civic\u2014with 187,000 miles, rust around the wheel wells and a windshield crack I have postponed repairing\u2014is unlikely to appear in anyone\u2019s automotive calendar. But it runs, it is paid for, and it has carried me through seven years of widowhood, thousands of trips to the accounting firm where I work as a senior bookkeeper, and countless airport runs when Carrie comes home from Seattle. When Carrie and her husband temporarily moved in during a renovation, I gave them the driveway and began parking on the public street. Unfortunately, the nearest open space was often in front of Linda\u2019s house. Linda had lived in the neighborhood for nine years and had gradually appointed herself its unofficial aesthetic authority. She had moved another family\u2019s flowerpots because they looked \u201ccluttered,\u201d thrown my nine-year-old granddaughter\u2019s bicycle into a recycling bin because it spoiled the appearance of my lawn, and complained about everything from hedges to holiday lights. I had tolerated it because neighbors have to continue living beside one another. But putting a wheel clamp on my legally parked car was different. During lunch that day, I checked the applicable local rules and confirmed what common sense had already suggested: a private resident generally cannot simply immobilize another person\u2019s vehicle on a public street because she dislikes looking at it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I could have reported Linda immediately, and I seriously considered it. I had photographs, a witness in Carrie and Linda\u2019s own words connecting her to the clamp. Depending on local law, unauthorized interference with another person\u2019s vehicle could potentially expose someone to civil liability or other legal consequences, and I intended to preserve my documentation in case the behavior continued. But sitting at my desk that afternoon, I realized I wanted something more useful than another neighborhood war. Linda\u2019s real problem was not my Honda; it was her conviction that the view from her window somehow gave her authority over everything within it. So I ordered two enormous faux-terracotta garden planters, nearly three feet across, filled them with vigorous trailing plants, and arranged same-day delivery directly to Linda\u2019s house. The card read: For Linda, with my warmest regards. I wanted to contribute something beautiful to your view. Your neighbor, Margaret.<\/em> When I returned home, Linda was waiting beside the planters, furious. \u201cWhat are these monstrosities doing in front of my house?\u201d she demanded. \u201cYou said my car ruined your view,\u201d I replied. \u201cI thought I\u2019d give you something nicer to look at.\u201d Then I mentioned, as calmly as I could, that I had documented the wheel clamp and researched my legal options. For the first time in nine years, Linda stopped talking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n I told her exactly what I should have told her years earlier: the street did not belong to her. Neither did my granddaughter\u2019s bicycle, the Petersons\u2019 flowerpots, the Hendersons\u2019 hedge or anyone else\u2019s lawful choices. \u201cYour standards are yours to maintain,\u201d I said. \u201cThey are not everyone else\u2019s.\u201d Linda tried one final defense\u2014\u201cYour car really is ugly\u201d\u2014and I surprised her by agreeing. It was old, rusty and badly in need of attention, but none of that transformed a public parking space into her private property. After a long silence, she finally said, \u201cI shouldn\u2019t have put the boot on.\u201d I told her she was right, and that although I was keeping the photographs and documentation, I would not escalate matters provided it never happened again. Then something peculiar happened. Linda looked at the planters and asked what I had planted in them. \u201cNasturtiums and sweet potato vine,\u201d I told her. She informed me that nasturtiums were edible. I told her not to overwater them. Within minutes, the woman who had immobilized my car that morning was deciding which side of her porch would give my ridiculous peace-offering planters the best morning light. Before going inside, she even recommended a mechanic on Folsom Street who, according to her brother, did reasonably priced work on older cars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The boot never appeared again. When Carrie and her husband moved home in April, my Honda returned to the driveway and Chestnut Street settled back into its familiar rhythm. Then one morning I discovered a paper bag from a garden center sitting on my front step. Inside were tulip bulbs and a short handwritten note: I thought you might like these. They\u2019ll come back every spring without much help.<\/em> It was signed simply, L.<\/em> I planted them beside the driveway, and the following spring they emerged in bright red and yellow. Linda still has opinions; I suspect she always will. But she no longer moves other people\u2019s belongings, and now she occasionally gives me a cautious little wave from across the street. I eventually took the Honda to the mechanic she recommended, too, and she was right\u2014he was reasonable. Sometimes I look at those tulips and think about how close two neighbors came to spending years at war over an ugly old car. I could have chosen escalation, and in another situation that might have been necessary. Instead, I chose two absurdly large planters, a firm boundary and one last attempt at being neighbors. The flowers returning each spring do not mean Linda and I suddenly became friends. They mean something quieter: she learned where my property ended and her authority did too\u2014and somehow, after all of that, we both still found a way to live next door.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The yellow wheel clamp was impossible to miss against the faded gold of my twenty-year-old Honda, and for several seconds I simply stood on the cold February sidewalk staring at it. 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